Kathy at Adopting Adam wrote a post about her son’s belly button as a connection to his birth mom. It was strange because I had been thinking about the very same thing recently.
Christian and I have talked a great deal about how we will handle conversations about birth families with Zoe and Colin. We have zero information about Zoe’s birth family. We don’t know anything about Colin’s birth father, but we know a lot about his birth mom and still have contact with her and her sister. We wonder if Zoe will feel cheated because she doesn’t have that same information. We try to maintain connections to her birth culture, but it’s not exactly a substitute.
So anyway, I was thinking that I would eventually tell them both (but especially Zoe) that if they wanted to think of their birth moms, they could touch their belly buttons and remember that they were connected to her. Does that make any sense, or is it lame?